I (don't) see dead people

[sapiens]

When someone asked if I knew women who have had breast cancer, I realized I didn't, and more so, in general, I haven't met many people who have died, not even close relatives.

Essentially, these are the people I've met who died, in somewhat chronological order:
1. A girl in 4th grade. I was too young, I didn't know her well. I think it was a car accident.

2. One uncle. His car was hit by another car. Supposedly, it was murder, since he was a lawyer. I was like 10 years old, and before that I had seen him only twice, perhaps. We are not very close with that side of the family.

3. My last two great grandmothers. One had Alzheimer, the other one was just old (over 90 years old). I didn't know them well.

4. The sister of an aunt, brain tumor; not really my relative. The mother of another aunt, old age; also not a blood relative.

5. A high school teacher, sclerosis or something like that. She was like 60, not old at all. I really liked her. Sadly, I was too busy with university work that I didn't visit her in her last days.

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So, what about you?

Is your family small that you won't have to go to a funeral until your mom dies?

Are you the angel of death, and half the people you've met have died?

[Soryon]

pointless to name people who died of old age, but here are some unnatural deaths among my acquaintances.

2 friends from high school died from accidental drug over dose.
3 friends from high school died in a car accidents. (all separate incidents)
1 friend in high school died after falling off a balcony and landing on his head.
1 cousin and her boyfriend; murdered execution style (suspects have been caught and convicted, thankfully)

All of those people were under the age of 25 and I was fairly close with each of them.
shit sucks, man.

[daveLovesIt]

Outside of family members (all old) and keeping it just to the tragic, young cases, who I had personally met/known (there are a few others which affected me even though I did not know them):

When I was 11, a guy who was a few years older, died of a solvent-abuse accident. I'd only spoken to him once, a few days earlier. He was very liked, and this produced a very strange atmosphere to begin a new school in. Said solvent-based product was banned very quickly for sale on UK shelves following this incident.

At the same school, an acquaintance in my year left due to bullying when we were about 14/15. Many years later, I found out he had taken a lethal overdose, around the age of 17 as far as I could figure. He had confided certain things in me, not because we were really close, but because he didn't have many people to trust. I was aware that he was not a strong person, and was deeply unhappy. The fact that someone so young could give up so completely still affects me today.

Quite recently, someone I was close to in my earlier twenties, fell to his death through his own stupidity whilst abroad. I haven't yet managed to feel sad for him, partly due to falling out and no longer being close. I'm more pissed at him for the hurt he's caused his family and friends which could have been avoided. But I expect the fond memories will return sooner rather than later and the loss will hit me.

Weird thread to start...

[xfreidax]

Close friend of mine. Went to Bali for holiday with a bunch of guys from school. While they were there, they had shroom omelets. My friend felt a little ill and said he wanted to lie down for a bit. The rest of the guys were tripping in another room. He vomited while in bed and was choking on his own vomit. By the time the others realised something was wrong and got to him, he was unresponsive. Paramedics came, took him to hospital. He was declared dead there. Cause of death mushroom poisoning. Rest of the guys who also ate the omelets were traumatised but otherwise ok. Dude was 22. I was supposed to go on this trip as well, but pulled out cause I was broke.

Acquaintance of mine. Found dead at the foot of a block of flats. Cause of death, falling from height. They never established whether he jumped, fell, or was pushed. The guy was 20.

[1000mAh]

I can remember only three persons I knew, that have died, most likely there is more, I just can't remember ...and I've been only in 1 funeral.

well, the 1st was almosti 55, male, died to liver cancer
his wife, about 7 years later, almost 60, medicine(s) and booze, most likely suicide.
and then that almost 55 years old males mother, about 2 months ago,toold age, was over 90

none of these was my blood relative, but still...

[kurandoinu]

Just my grandad on my dads side and my nana on my mums side. Other than that the only other person who died that I knew was one of my mums uncles, and I hadn't seen him for years.

[Ixarku]

Both of my mom's parents died within 6 months of each other or so - my grandfather from heart disease, my grandmother in part due to a collapsed lung that occurred during hospital treatment (never got the whole story there).  My mother died a few months after, a suicide caused by an overdose of acetaminophen.  All of this happened in 1999, when I was 3000 miles away from my family.  I left home in ‘98 to try to find a life for myself, only to come back 2 years later to find that everything that had been ‘home’ was gone forever.  Took about 5 years before I really started to get over the whole string of events, but some of my family still have a hard time with it.

I've had two co-workers die within the last few years.  The first fell through a skylight in his roof while he was inspecting some construction on his house.  I knew the guy but not that well; it was still a bit of a shock in the office, as he was liked and was one of those super-knowledgeable guys that people always depended on to resolve critical issues.

The second co-worker was someone I considered a good friend & mentor.  He had had 2 heart attacks in prior years, and had made a lot of effort to eat better and control stress.  He was jovial with a great sense of humor, smart guy, very well-liked in the office.  Then one week he complained of headaches, went into the hospital and it turned out he had a congenital brain tumor that had started growing.  He survived the surgery but died a few days later when a blood vessel burst in his brain.  It just goes to show that it’s not only what you know about that can kill you.

My dad’s parents are approaching 80, and getting frail and sick, so I expect they don’t have many more years to live, and my dad’s never been in good health, and he’s close to 60, so I’m dreading the day when I get a phone call about something happening to one of them.

[mgz]

can really only think of 5 people from highschool that died 4 of them while in highschool 4th someone i knew from highschool that died last week.

1 - a girl that ide gone to school with for like 8 years and known died of cancer - like everyone in the school felt bad about it since everyone watched her slowly die since she kept coming to school until she was on the brink of death.

2/3 - a kid got shot in a violent breaking and entering gone wrong in the face 2 times with a shot gun. (This one was a huge shocker since we live in a real nice area) even more fucked up is the newspaper made up a story about the kid killing himself  over a break up with his girlfriend that had just happened. She killed herself as a result, newspaper got sued for millions from both families.

4 - in junior year one of my school friends(someone your friends with but never actually see much outside of school) got himself killed in a car accident. Going about 120mph lost control of his car and hit a telephone pole. The grounding wire for the telephone pole decapitated him and pretty much cut the car most of the way in half. His girlfriend was at a party 3 days later (she was in the car and didnt get hurt at all) and was sporting a big coke habit on the way out of highschool

5 - friend of mine who i havent seen in a couple years and a good friend of my brother died of liver failure at the age of 25 last sunday. Drank himself to death.

[temuchin]

all of my grandparents are dead.  i only ever knew my grandmother on my mother's side.
she was the greatest.

a few years back my youngest sister got suddenly ill whilst traveling in Africa.  she had spent a semester
abroad and was due to return home in a few weeks.   send someone off at the airport and they return 6
months later in a casket.  broke my heart and my family's as well.    
  
life is a strange thing - its incredible how in literally the span of seconds a person life can be changed.

i think violent deaths and suicides etc. add another element totally.

[BrownMasterV]

My grandpa on my dad's is the only person I've actually known who has died.

Sadly religion killed him.
He went on a "pilgrimage" in the mountains on May 26, 2009, and collapsed after taking a shower one early morning. They never examined the body. They never even let my dad see him. They just put his body in a bucket and dropped him into a whirlpool in a river (retarded belief that a death on that mountain is 'special').

We never found out the cause of death.

All my family and I got to see were pictures of his body in the bucket and the priest pushing it into the whirlpool.

Things like this really piss me off.

My grandfather was probably the best man I've ever known.  :'(

[1000mAh]

My grandpa on my dad's is the only person I've actually known who has died.

Sadly religion killed him.
He went on a "pilgrimage" in the mountains on May 26, 2009, and collapsed after taking a shower one early morning. They never examined the body. They never even let my dad see him. They just put his body in a bucket and dropped him into a whirlpool in a river (retarded belief that a death on that mountain is 'special').

We never found out the cause of death.

All my family and I got to see were pictures of his body in the bucket and the priest pushing it into the whirlpool.

Things like this really piss me off.

My grandfather was probably the best man I've ever known.  :'(

yeah, somethig like that could piss off almost everyone. but that would have been something weardto see.

[Akecu]

Few so far.

Old neighbour from downstairs. Nice guy who played with me when I was child.
Father, alcohol and it's consequences (liver went bad etc)
Grandfather.. If I remember correctly age+cancer. Don't care though.

Guess I'm lucky?

[sapiens]

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My dad’s parents are approaching 80, and getting frail and sick, so I expect they don’t have many more years to live, and my dad’s never been in good health, and he’s close to 60, so I’m dreading the day when I get a phone call about something happening to one of them.

I know what you mean. My grandparents are at least 78 years old. One of this days I'm going to get the "call". I just hope to be in another city so I can have an excuse for not going to services.

On a related note, I hate my father, he's fucking indestructible; he can be shot, stabbed, have a broken leg, strange diseases and still rise again like a terminator. I kid you not when I tell you that I think he'll be burying my sorry carcass when he's like 105.

[deathman]

Guys you are just heartless you talk about people that are fucking dead without actually caring so much......i am telling you this because i have cried for people that i have lost......

[Soryon]

Guys you are just heartless you talk about people that are fucking dead without actually caring so much......i am telling you this because i have cried for people that i have lost......

people die, it's an unavoidalbe part of life. There is no reason to be so reserved when talking about, but that doesn't mean the people in this thread didn't care about most of the people who died.
I cared about the people I listed above, but guess what, I'm gonna die someday too. What's the big deal.

Its not like anyone here as saying "HAHAHA soandso died, fucking newb sucked at life!"
People are only mentioning people they knew that have passed away for various reasons.

[DLTE]

There was this Russian dude in my school who died on his birthday when I was secondary 2. The story was something like his brother bursting into his room on that birthday morning with his mom and a camcorder to record the occasion but instead found the body cold and blue. Died of a heart problem :s

He was a pretty talented guy, in the national youth orchestral and that all jazz.

[mgz]

Guys you are just heartless you talk about people that are fucking dead without actually caring so much......i am telling you this because i have cried for people that i have lost......

people die, it's an unavoidalbe part of life. There is no reason to be so reserved when talking about, but that doesn't mean the people in this thread didn't care about most of the people who died.

I cared about the people I listed above, but guess what, I'm gonna die someday too. What's the big deal.

agreed just because we dont view death the same as you doesnt make us monsters. Ide be willing to say more people cry for their beloved dog they had for 10 years dying cuz he got hit by a car then for their 90 year old grandparent

[Ixarku]

Guys you are just heartless you talk about people that are fucking dead without actually caring so much......i am telling you this because i have cried for people that i have lost......

I hope you're not including me in this.  I think you’re making a big assumption about the people who’ve posted in this thread so far.

I care deeply about my friends and my family.  I had never experienced a death of someone I loved until a few months after I moved out of my parents home for the first time, and then I lost 3 close family members in a span of less than a year, one to suicide.  This happened when I was broke, struggling to survive, and living on the other side of the country with no prospect of getting back home to be with my family.  Imagine moving out of your parents house during a time when your parents’ marriage is troubled, while your mother is begging you to stay, but you know you’ve got to do it anyway to get some kind of forward momentum in your life.  Then imagine your mother killing herself a year later, and think about how you’d feel.

[Proin Drakenzol]

some dude on my ship died by falling off the balcony at a hotel this past weekend.

[1000mAh]

some dude on my ship died by falling off the balcony at a hotel this past weekend.

well, that is funny way to die. was he drunk?