These are people who insisted I find a job at 14, and that I use none of those earnings whatsoever for anything but my continued education. They aren't exactly capricious with their own money either.
My parents consider personal responsibility next to godliness, and the inability to meet any obligations deeply shameful. Generally I'm fine with this, except when they broaden what my "obligations" are without telling me. Or, for instance, requiring me to go to my junior lacrosse game with a severely twisted ankle under the ultimatum that if I didn't they'd take me out of lacrosse altogether, since clearly I'm not taking it seriously. That kind of stuff.
If my parents were typing this they'd say you shouldn't expect anyone to pay your way for you. They'd also politely imply your father isn't a man if he puts his selfish wants ahead of his familial obligations and even goes so far as to foist them off onto his son. Which is good, since if I were in your place I'd might be tempted to screw over my grandparents, they're horrid, manipulative, self-esteem decimating, and generally disagreeable people.
