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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #20 on: May 11, 2011, 10:42:02 AM »
dude, why going tough all that ?

you won't solve anything if you lie to her, just tell her the truth.. it's not bad =/
But, the question is: WHAT IS THE TRUTH?!  :o
why he was watching loli-hentai? For fapping purpose? just for the shit and lulz?


haha, don't ask me that. XD

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #21 on: May 11, 2011, 10:44:41 AM »
dude, why going tough all that ?

you won't solve anything if you lie to her, just tell her the truth.. it's not bad =/
But, the question is: WHAT IS THE TRUTH?!  :o
why he was watching loli-hentai? For fapping purpose? just for the shit and lulz?


haha, don't ask me that. XD

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but anyway, I hope OP's gf understands the whole shit and wont break up with OP..

otherwise OP, you are in deep shit.

But be glad it was your GIRLFRIEND. what if it would have been your PARENTS? :o

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #22 on: May 11, 2011, 11:01:36 AM »
Oh wow... just... wow. I'm speechless.

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #23 on: May 11, 2011, 11:04:19 AM »
^I know right?
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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #24 on: May 11, 2011, 11:05:31 AM »
@flyawave & Reape

don't you guys have anything better to do ?

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #25 on: May 11, 2011, 11:06:20 AM »
The "Oh-****" scale for the following scenarios goes from "You gonna get raped" to "Actually not so bad", in that order. Unless you have a problem with the last scenario, in which case it falls right back.

But be glad it was your GIRLFRIEND. what if it would have been your PARENTS? :o

Your parents might put you through hell criticizing you, but it's the g/f who gets mad and burns all your crap or calls the cops on you. ;D
/Hopes that doesn't actually happen to OP, though.

That or she uses it as a bargaining tool later down the road. And by "bargaining" of course I mean "extortion" and "blackmail". <<Had this happen with other things, not porn related or otherwise "shady", though. x.x

But hey! She could be the reasonable and level-headed type. Then tomorrow she'll be like "Hey! Remember that time I saw you watching lolipr0n and promised you cake if you'd quit but didn't actually give you any!" ... Probably. Maybe. Hopefully?

Or maybe or she went home to go grab her shota and guro collection because she knows you'd be okay with it. Obviously that's really why you haven't heard back from her: when it spans at least 9001 CD-Rs, it takes awhile. She was just so excited that she dropped your computer and ran to get it.

/serious:
There isn't a whole lot you can do until you talk to her, so getting too stressed isn't going to help.
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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #26 on: May 11, 2011, 11:20:06 AM »
@flyawave & Reape

don't you guys have anything better to do ?

Things like this rarely come up, I'mma milk this cow dry...

Ok, I guess I could be a bit less of a dick.

Here's my $0.02. It's been said a million times but all you can do is communicate. Give it a day, and if she cools down then great! If not, give it some time

I don't like giving advice of this sort for one reason. Nobody explains it fully. It's impossible! Only you can possibly know you, her and where you two stand with eachother, therefore only you are armed with the correct knowledge to handle this properly.
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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #27 on: May 11, 2011, 11:49:40 AM »
Soooooo my gf has a key to my appartment incase of emergencies ..... stupid thing to do i know but oh well

so i was in my room on my laptop with loli on the screen (a hentai video with loli in it) so she opens my appartment without making any noise and tries to sneek into my room but i herd her just before she got to my room so i hurry  up and close my laptop and turn around to look at her and say something like "ummm what are you doing here" in a completelly shaky voice ... she asked what i was doing that made me close my laptop and i said "nothing" so she walkes over and asks to see what i was doing and i tell her "just guy stuff" then she said  "if its porn ive seen porn before ... maybe i will be interested let me see" so she pulls the laptop away from me and hits play and the video starts ..... it plays for a minute or so but it felt like an eternity then she just drops my laptop on my bed, glares at me, then walkes out of my appartment .... so basically im screwed right? what should i do? anything? this happened about five or ten minutes ago .... after she walked out i ran after her but she wouldnt stop

Hmmm and then you got on the forum to ask for help.

Simple answer, go see her, you are going to have to do that to get your key back anyway if it's over between you and her.
Not that it is, but it's going to take some work to sort this one out.

If you think she is totally worth it, make the effort.

If you don't think you can pull it off, what the heck make the effort any how, you might actually end up in her good books again.
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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #28 on: May 11, 2011, 11:51:46 AM »
don't you guys have anything better to do ?

Well sorry, I just think this whole situation is rather absurd.

I also agree compeletely with flyawave, although I personally wonder why would you wish to be in a relationship with someone who acts so high and mighty towards you.
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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #29 on: May 11, 2011, 11:54:14 AM »
Wait, maybe the GF was shocked because you two share the same interests... not likely but one can hope! Anyway, just explain it to her and if she doesn't except it, then dump her.

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #30 on: May 11, 2011, 12:03:01 PM »
Well if I'm in your position I'll ask her:
If you really love me I think you should accept me for what I am since you love me right?
If she will replies to you in positive way then go settle things in a simple and nice way of talking.

If not feel free to use this

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #31 on: May 11, 2011, 12:03:24 PM »
I apologise for sounding up myself or whatever,
I was just saying what I thought you could do.

I agree everyone must like some things more than others, sure there are weird and wonderful fetishes out there,
it could have been worse. I remember a news story a while back about the government in UK pushing a website to schools and if it was typed wrong or ended in .com it linked you to a balloon fetish website (Source TES, sometime last october).

I hope you guys can sort it out and if she isn't wanting to accept the fact you like hentai or lolicon then I agree with some of the other peeps, she isn't worth it. Maybe now she's seen what you like she might build on it and she might let you in on what she likes.

I dunno... as I said I hope you work it out.

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #32 on: May 11, 2011, 12:26:15 PM »
Perhaps in future you might sound better on these forums if you didn't double post half your first posts and actually used the modify button like the rules state.

Beside the point. +1 to the girls. Put the foot down. People have secrets and things like that, even her.

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #33 on: May 11, 2011, 12:26:47 PM »
You need to think like a manipulative little shit. Don't let your feelings get in the way. If you want to fight a girl, you need to think like a girl. Otherwise you're just gonna be the little bitch and always lose. Girls really don't like a sniveling wuss that just gives in, apologizes and tells the girl she was right. Be a man, stand your ground. Tell her she was wrong.

Look, I don't know her, but I suspect she's probably sitting around thinking how disgusting it was that you were watching kiddie porn. It'll go over and over in her head repeatedly. She probably isn't even aware of what she's doing. And then when you see her, she's going to try to guilt trip the shit out of you.

But you can't let her do that.

You can't let the girl fire the missile. You're gonna sink.

You gotta get yours in the water first with a preemptive first strike. You gotta make her feel like total shit for even doing it in the first place, and then she'll feel apprehensive about what she thought. If she sees you're just as upset, or even more upset than she is about this, then there's little she can do but start to think that maybe it was her that fucked up.

That won't happen right away. It'll probably be a vicious catfight during that guilt tripping stage. But then she'll calm down. What you said will have time to sink in and she'll start thinking that it could have been her fault. Of course, for this to happen, you need to have an argument superior to her condescending nature.

Okay.

She abused your trust. That's always a good one to start with. You gave her your key for emergencies and she betrayed that trust you put in her and did this. Look what it caused. You're hurt. Not just because she threw a fit and ran out on you like that, but because she betrayed your trust. It's going to take a lot to be able to trust her again...

That's step one. You gotta hit her with that. If she was brooding, she probably didn't consider that could be how you felt. And never downplay. Always upplay it. Be dramatic. Even if it wasn't all that big of a deal, it's a fucking huge deal.

Next, you need a precision strike right into her ego. That'll bring her down a notch, reflecting inwards. Tell her it's her fault you were even looking at porn. Maybe if she'd have sex with you a bit more then you wouldn't need to.

Then, downplay.

You weren't cheating. You were looking at porn. Yeah, okay. It was some pretty sick shit. But it's just cartoons and you can differentiate between cartoons and reality and you don't feel the same way whatsoever about the real thing. The real thing is just fucked up. But with the cartoons, it's different. They aren't real, and you don't see them as real. You identify with them as sexualized objects, which for all intents and purposes, regardless of how they may appear, is basically the same thing as watching normal porn between consenting adults. The voice actors are all adults. There are no children involved in the making or the acting of what you were watching. And with them being cartoons, it's fairly hard to differentiate between the age groups and one is naturally much more easily attracted to them than the real thing. That's all it really is. And besides, everyone has some sick crap they think about when they're all alone. It's not like you'd go rape a kid, you're not into disgusting shit like that. You just like watching cartoons. Then say it's something about how the actors portray the characters as more innocent and embarrassed during sex, and you think that's hawt. She should do that. In fact, it doesn't matter what age whatever you were watching was, that same behavior even with busty DD characters would have the same effect with you.

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #34 on: May 11, 2011, 12:32:20 PM »
You need to think like a manipulative little shit. Don't let your feelings get in the way. If you want to fight a girl, you need to think like a girl. Otherwise you're just gonna be the little bitch and always lose. Girls really don't like a sniveling wuss that just gives in, apologizes and tells the girl she was right. Be a man, stand your ground. Tell her she was wrong.

Look, I don't know her, but I suspect she's probably sitting around thinking how disgusting it was that you were watching kiddie porn. It'll go over and over in her head repeatedly. She probably isn't even aware of what she's doing. And then when you see her, she's going to try to guilt trip the shit out of you.

But you can't let her do that.

You can't let the girl fire the missile. You're gonna sink.

You gotta get yours in the water first with a preemptive first strike. You gotta make her feel like total shit for even doing it in the first place, and then she'll feel apprehensive about what she thought. If she sees you're just as upset, or even more upset than she is about this, then there's little she can do but start to think that maybe it was her that fucked up.

That won't happen right away. It'll probably be a vicious catfight during that guilt tripping stage. But then she'll calm down. What you said will have time to sink in and she'll start thinking that it could have been her fault. Of course, for this to happen, you need to have an argument superior to her condescending nature.

Okay.

She abused your trust. That's always a good one to start with. You gave her your key for emergencies and she betrayed that trust you put in her and did this. Look what it caused. You're hurt. Not just because she threw a fit and ran out on you like that, but because she betrayed your trust. It's going to take a lot to be able to trust her again...

That's step one. You gotta hit her with that. If she was brooding, she probably didn't consider that could be how you felt. And never downplay. Always upplay it. Be dramatic. Even if it wasn't all that big of a deal, it's a fucking huge deal.

Next, you need a precision strike right into her ego. That'll bring her down a notch, reflecting inwards. Tell her it's her fault you were even looking at porn. Maybe if she'd have sex with you a bit more then you wouldn't need to.

Then, downplay.

You weren't cheating. You were looking at porn. Yeah, okay. It was some pretty sick shit. But it's just cartoons and you can differentiate between cartoons and reality and you don't feel the same way whatsoever about the real thing. The real thing is just fucked up. But with the cartoons, it's different. They aren't real, and you don't see them as real. You identify with them as sexualized objects, which for all intents and purposes, regardless of how they may appear, is basically the same thing as watching normal porn between consenting adults. The voice actors are all adults. There are no children involved in the making or the acting of what you were watching. And with them being cartoons, it's fairly hard to differentiate between the age groups and one is naturally much more easily attracted to them than the real thing. That's all it really is. And besides, everyone has some sick crap they think about when they're all alone. It's not like you'd go rape a kid, you're not into disgusting shit like that. You just like watching cartoons. Then say it's something about how the actors portray the characters as more innocent and embarrassed during sex, and you think that's hawt. She should do that. In fact, it doesn't matter what age whatever you were watching was, that same behavior even with busty DD characters would have the same effect with you.

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #35 on: May 11, 2011, 12:34:00 PM »
oh god.

well, call her, if that doesn't work just go to her house and talk about this, tell her straight that you are a loli freak and maybe she will understand XD

and the chances of any girl understanding this??? .... i doubt it ... it happened just a little bit ago .... maybe half an hour ago now ..... IT WAS 01:30AM its dark outside ... how was i supposed to  know she would stop over this late .... but how long should i wait to call her?

Give her a while to calm down first off. You don't want to piss her off even more by trying to explain yourself.
When she's calmed down, just sit her down and explain that you can't really help but like it. Ask her why she likes (and possibly indulges) in what she likes, and she'll most likely understand.
Though I'm assuming she's not pissed by the fact it was loli, but the fact you were fapping over something that wasn't her. In which case she'll just have to calm down herself, there's not much you can do. :v


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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #36 on: May 11, 2011, 12:42:20 PM »
Give her a while to calm down first off. You don't want to piss her off even more by trying to explain yourself.
When she's calmed down, just sit her down and explain that you can't really help but like it. Ask her why she likes (and possibly indulges) in what she likes, and she'll most likely understand.
Though I'm assuming she's not pissed by the fact it was loli, but the fact you were fapping over something that wasn't her. In which case she'll just have to calm down herself, there's not much you can do. :v

Obviously it's because it was loli. He even mentioned she said it was okay if it was porn. She probably just wanted to see what kind of interests he had and his reluctance probably only excited her. And then when she found out it was little kids... that excitement spiraled down into a little vat of disillusional rage and disgust. It wasn't even something she could remotely compete with or get ideas from. It didn't help her at all, because it was little kids. And in the face of surmounting and utter defeat, she could do nothing but react hostilely in the situation. That, of course, shows her immaturity. But, it's not an unheard of response set in the given situation, for some individuals.

But you gotta deal with that a certain way. If the OP doesn't man up, he's just gonna get walked all over and it's going to be loomed over him for the rest of their relationship and judging from her immaturity, it'll be spread around after their harsh breakup, if it hasn't started to be already to her friends. Though she may have some semblance of self respect and realize that the guy she calls her boyfriend is that kind of person and she must be such a horrible judge of character, thereby reflecting poorly on herself as he was her choice.

All in all, if he doesn't put his foot down, it's gonna end badly. If not now, then later, to varying degrees of shittyness.

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #37 on: May 11, 2011, 12:43:24 PM »
If you want to fight a girl, you need to think like a girl

In other words be an emotional little pussy and make yourself the victim before she can.
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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #38 on: May 11, 2011, 12:50:58 PM »
Note taken, I am sorry for double posting and not just modifying my comments.

Anyway, got work to do now

Hope all goes well

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Re: Girlfriend saw my loli ....
« Reply #39 on: May 11, 2011, 12:53:29 PM »
If you want to fight a girl, you need to think like a girl

In other words be an emotional little pussy and make yourself the victim before she can.

Make yourself the victim, yes. Emotional pussy, no. You need to be firm, but still masculine. She has to maintain respect for you as a woman while you're doing this, even if she doesn't respect you as an individual at the time or even particularly like you. She can't be looking at you like a sniveling little baby. If she writes you off as a wuss, the argument is as good as over because nothing you say will reach her.