Author Topic: In need of an imaginary friend (Read 1097 times)

goosi · « **on:** November 03, 2011, 04:36:07 AM »

It's been like 3 years that I wanted to share my feelings and stuff with - you know - a real friend. But I never had any close friends. Had some friends hear and there but they're not very close.
So I've been thinking maybe I need an imaginary one. But dont know how you can make one.
I know it's a bit wierd but anyone has any ideas or experience in this stuff?

Sebur · « **Reply #1 on:** November 03, 2011, 04:53:16 AM »

I heard religion is pretty popular nowadays.

i_am_otep · « **Reply #2 on:** November 03, 2011, 05:21:05 AM »

Dear Diary...

I kept one sometime ago, back when I was down and out.

Ashall · « **Reply #3 on:** November 03, 2011, 06:58:01 AM »

I have friends and family but I didn't really let anyone get too close to me when I was younger, idk why.. Probably just teenage angst. The thing that bothered me the most was that I was popular and had to force a pretty smile ALL the frickin time. And I used to be too nice to speak my mind. So I started to write poetry and play the Erhu to vent out emotions.

But that all changed when I moved in with my current boyfriend. I used to be really moody (maybe still a little bit) and have been known to throw and break things but thankfully I can just speak my mind to him now and not keep feelings in the dark. I have someone now that is understanding and likes me for being me not just because I'm pretty.

The truth is practically everyone in this world has/is gone through/going through what you are going through. It's just angst and maybe a little bit of just being scared of showing people who you really are. I know I was.

Kyrdua · « **Reply #4 on:** November 03, 2011, 09:53:34 AM »

Quote from: Sebur on November 03, 2011, 04:53:16 AM

I heard religion is pretty popular nowadays.

this takes the cake.

there's this people's choice guy named "Jesus Christ". look him up. next best would be "Muhammad".

Ixarku · « **Reply #5 on:** November 03, 2011, 09:54:36 AM »

Quote from: goosi on November 03, 2011, 04:36:07 AM

It's been like 3 years that I wanted to share my feelings and stuff with - you know - a real friend. But I never had any close friends. Had some friends hear and there but they're not very close.
So I've been thinking maybe I need an imaginary one. But dont know how you can make one.
I know it's a bit wierd but anyone has any ideas or experience in this stuff?

Real friends are much better than imaginary ones. Don't fall into the trap of being antisocial or too shy to meet people. It's much harder to break away from being shy when you get older and your behavior becomes too ingrained. Take a chance, make the effort!

Sarapico · « **Reply #6 on:** November 03, 2011, 11:06:49 AM »

Some people call booze a good friend.

A pet can help, but try not to get a parrot (unless you’re a pirate, but then booze is already your friend). Hamsters, fishes, turtles, spiders and snakes don’t listen very well, a cat or a dog is the best bet.

Ashall · « **Reply #7 on:** November 03, 2011, 11:10:26 AM »

The worst thing you can do is become anti-social. There is always someone else looking for a friend. Relationships need to be built and are well worth the effort.

Burkingam · « **Reply #8 on:** November 03, 2011, 02:19:22 PM »

Yea I think if you want to have an imaginary friend without looking like an idiot without others thinking you're crazy, religion is the way to go. Just say you're a christian universalist. This way, if you ever make true friends, your not gonna alienate them by condemning them to eternal torture just because they have another interpretation of the holly babble.

Reape · « **Reply #9 on:** November 03, 2011, 03:51:30 PM »

1. Create a facebook account
2. Log in
3. Send friend requests to everyone you see
4. ?
5. Profit

Garret02 · « **Reply #10 on:** November 03, 2011, 03:56:52 PM »

Quote from: goosi on November 03, 2011, 04:36:07 AM

So I've been thinking maybe I need an imaginary one. But dont know how you can make one.

Try Foster's Home For Imaginary Friends

Soryon · « **Reply #11 on:** November 03, 2011, 04:00:49 PM »

Get a stuffed tiger. It worked for Calvin.

Ultra_Magnus · « **Reply #12 on:** November 03, 2011, 05:04:43 PM »

I keep a journal, a paper one, that way I can always burn it.

Hard drives tend to smell pretty bad when you burn them, DAMHIKT.

Sarapico · « **Reply #13 on:** November 03, 2011, 11:35:18 PM »

I might or miight not be real, so you can be my friend.

Cuan · « **Reply #14 on:** November 04, 2011, 03:52:02 PM »

↑ the best friend you could wish for. She trains with you, bathes with you, she even sleeps with you!
And she can be YOUR WAIFU now!

TwEeD · « **Reply #15 on:** November 04, 2011, 07:19:37 PM »

Quote from: Kyrdua on November 03, 2011, 09:53:34 AM

there's this people's choice guy named "Jesus Christ". look him up. next best would be "Muhammad".

I'd personally go for :

Jurichan · « **Reply #16 on:** November 06, 2011, 03:55:46 AM »

Kurt Cobain had an imaginary friend, and look where he ended up!

Ashall · « **Reply #17 on:** November 06, 2011, 04:05:43 AM »

Quote from: Jurichan on November 06, 2011, 03:55:46 AM

Kurt Cobain had an imaginary friend, and look where he ended up!

Ah such a tragedy... Why Kurt? You left a daughter... Who's living a pretty messed up life.. Nothing would be worse for a teenage girl than to have Courtney Love as a parent.

Jurichan · « **Reply #18 on:** November 06, 2011, 04:17:48 AM »

Quote from: Ashall on November 06, 2011, 04:05:43 AM

Quote from: Jurichan on November 06, 2011, 03:55:46 AM
Kurt Cobain had an imaginary friend, and look where he ended up!
Ah such a tragedy... Why Kurt? You left a daughter... Who's living a pretty messed up life.. Nothing would be worse for a teenage girl than to have Courtney Love as a parent.

I couldn't agree more.
Not to mention all the copycat suicides that came to follow thereafter. But in Kurt's eyes it must of been really shitty having all that money, drugs, and fans.
Probably did it because he realized In Utero was a heaping piece of dog shit.

fohfoh · « **Reply #19 on:** November 06, 2011, 04:58:12 AM »

Quote from: goosi on November 03, 2011, 04:36:07 AM

It's been like 3 years that I wanted to share my feelings and stuff with - you know - a real friend. But I never had any close friends. Had some friends hear and there but they're not very close.
So I've been thinking maybe I need an imaginary one. But dont know how you can make one.
I know it's a bit wierd but anyone has any ideas or experience in this stuff?

Keep trying for a real one. At worst, I would suggest an online friend (not me, I'm actually quite insensitive) instead of an imaginary one. Always be willing to be vulnerable and willing to run into the situations where that bites you in the ass. It worked for me. Be willing to take constructive criticism like when people tell you, "You're being an asshole." These people are TRUE friends and not the fake ones. A true friend can sit down and tell you all your short comings without fearing they'll lose your friendship.

Imaginary friends takes you down a path so fucked up... you don't want to go there.

Friendship is reciprocation. It is not one sided. A friend on occasion is the person you choose to vent to. But if you only ever meet the friend to vent, that's not friendship, that's a free psychologist with no qualifications. No one likes hearing complaints 24/7. Rethinking what expectations to have in a friend might be a good start for you.

Quote from: Ashall on November 03, 2011, 06:58:01 AM

I have friends and family but I didn't really let anyone get too close to me when I was younger, idk why.. Probably just teenage angst. The thing that bothered me the most was that I was popular and had to force a pretty smile ALL the frickin time. And I used to be too nice to speak my mind. So I started to write poetry and play the Erhu to vent out emotions.

The Erhu? O_o damn. I was really outgoing when I was younger but receded to poetry and video games during teen angst. But Erhu? That's it's own big ass bag of courage right there.