Depending on whats really more important to you, the housing part or anime style. EverQuest 2 has by far the most addictive housing I've ever experienced. Sooo many ways to customize your house, and so many housing styles to choose from.
I've spent days upon days, either skillcrafting household items, or mocking items up to look like something larger scale. Its just way too fun. And EQ RP servers are usually full of some pretty hardcore rp's.
Just a thought, can't say its a very anime styled game, but the housing! thats where its at