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metro.:
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--- Quote from: harpy on March 19, 2012, 08:12:23 PM ---Darn my manly brother even wears pink shirts
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Not long ago wearing pink and flamboyant clothes was the sign of manliness, since you had the balls to do it.
Example
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Hair bands were not a good time for humanity.
Ixarku:
--- Quote from: harpy on March 19, 2012, 09:53:39 PM ---Hm, even I know love do exist. It might not be all that romance and all that stuff, but still it's there.
I just do not see what love have to do with marriage, well beside ruining the love.
I understand back in time when people had their imaginary friends in form of God/Gods they had to do stuff like marriage, but now its just kind of stupid.
I do understand that back then they was afraid to be left alone with the kid and so on. But now one can get a peace of paper saying - "yeah, this is your baby - pay up",no need for another paper saying - "you belong to me and only me". As if that means anything.
I get it if one wants to change surname, that is if the one person have is horrible beyond comprehensions, but even then there is simpler solution.
And what idiot gets so desperate at age of 25 when life just begins, well beside ones with imaginary friends, can not hold these responsible need to blame their upbringing or idiocy to believe that believing in god should be regulated by some kind of old fashioned code of morality.
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For most, marriage is an expression of a commitment between two people, nevermind how often people set that commitment aside later for one reason or another. It's generally quite a bit harder for two people to split up if they are married than if they aren't (local laws may vary, of course). Marriage obviously isn't a requirement to have a good or successful relationship, but for a lot of people the symbolism of having that kind of mutually agreed upon commitment can be a strong reinforcement for their relationship. Just as obvious, though, is that each person's culture is going to play a huge factor in whether a marriage is successful or not, or whether it's even socially or morally worthwhile to go through with it. For example, with America's self-centered "me first, my happiness is all that matters", it's really no surprise that we have such a high rate of divorce.
So, in the modern age, while marriage may not be a necessity anymore, I don't see anything wrong with the institution itself; it doesn't hurt anything. At least in the U.S., I'm more concerned at how selfish people seem to be getting, how unwilling people are to make sacrifices for each other, especially in relationships.
There are a variety of reasons to get married; love doesn't necessarily have to enter the picture, it's just a common reason to do so, in part because of the frequent association between getting married & starting a family.
EmptyMemory:
--- Quote from: metro. on March 18, 2012, 03:48:47 AM ---Lol whomever mentioned the Friend Zone that used to happen to me all time when I was being an emotional child. They say nice guys don't get laid or something right? So I suppressed the desire to care about anything other then furthering myself and now...well friends are supposed to offer comfort in whatever way they can right?
Really though, I think it was more of me giving up on actually trying to find a relationship or whatever. People suck, and until they stop doing that, or start doing it really well there isn't there for me. I don't trust other people and myself even less.
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Hm. Well, I mean, I've already had my say about what I think about the friend-zone, but I think at the end of the day, if it's about someone I really care about, I'd rather be temporarily disappointed and stay friends, than to not be friends at all.
It's hard to be a friend if your only concern is furthering yourself.
I've never really been one to go out and find a relationship. I just go about life, and if a relationship opportunity comes my way, so be it. Even though I still find the idea of having a girlfriend to be nice, I'm okay with being on my own until the right opportunity comes; I'm not going to force it.
Ixarku:
--- Quote from: EmptyMemory on March 19, 2012, 11:03:42 PM ---I've never really been one to go out and find a relationship. I just go about life, and if a relationship opportunity comes my way, so be it. Even though I still find the idea of having a girlfriend to be nice, I'm okay with being on my own until the right opportunity comes; I'm not going to force it.
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That's pretty much my attitude, too. I enjoy being alone but I'm not adverse to a relationship if one happens to unfold. I can't bring myself to go & actively hunt for a relationship; the thought feels way too contrived and just doesn't seem right to me.
metro.:
--- Quote from: EmptyMemory on March 19, 2012, 11:03:42 PM ---It's hard to be a friend if your only concern is furthering yourself.
I've never really been one to go out and find a relationship. I just go about life, and if a relationship opportunity comes my way, so be it. Even though I still find the idea of having a girlfriend to be nice, I'm okay with being on my own until the right opportunity comes; I'm not going to force it.
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It's easy to make friends, you just be what that person wants out of a friend, it's really not that hard.
Oh, my only concern is furthering myself when it comes to the vast majority of my life. Parts of it I care about people, but those are very few and far between.
How many girlfriends have you had? Because you get to a point where it's just not worth it any more, and "waiting" I suppose is the only option. I have learnt though, don't date people within your faculty/group of friends. Or workplace.
It just gets awkward.
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