How exactly marriage ruins love? If two people really love each other then marriage doesn't change anything except female surname. Well it changes your material situation but for the better. Eg if you're not married and your significant other dies without last will, you get jack shit. Hell, even with last will the asshole part of his/her family will get a bunch of lawyers and make it so the will doesn't count because "he/she was not in his/her clear mind when writting the will" or "was made by the significant other" or something. And I'm speaking with experience here because some asshole part of my grand grandfather canceld his last will because they weren't satisfied with what they got.
I seen more then once when marriage ruins the love. Some people go all crazy and funny and strange after get married. Not all, but some big part of them. They seems to start to act differently then before, its like signing that peace of paper made them think that the other person is their property or something. Not all can deal with that.
Oh people can appeal wills even if they were written in marriage...
And what idiot gets so desperate at age of 25 when life just begins, well beside ones with imaginary friends, can not hold these responsible need to blame their upbringing or idiocy to believe that believing in god should be regulated by some kind of old fashioned code of morality.
You might be surprised... The amount of people I know at that age or younger, think they need to hurry up and get married.
I don't understand it.
I understand it if they have imaginary friends, some part of my family all have a common imaginary friend and some of them got married because their imaginary friend said - no sex without a marriage. Oh and now when they are barely 20-25 they already have 2 kids and husband part of the couple have cancer and most likely will die... Fun life.....
That's what you get by believing in imaginary friends.
Darn my manly brother even wears pink shirts
Not long ago wearing pink and flamboyant clothes was the sign of manliness, since you had the balls to do it.
Example
Glam and all in that age is a different story and mostly nothing to do with manliness. Its like female have feminism man have this.
Darn my manly brother even wears pink shirts
Not long ago wearing pink and flamboyant clothes was the sign of manliness, since you had the balls to do it.
Example
Hair bands were not a good time for humanity.
Go sit in corner!!!
There is nothing wrong with hair bands...beside their looks
Hm, even I know love do exist. It might not be all that romance and all that stuff, but still it's there.
I just do not see what love have to do with marriage, well beside ruining the love.
I understand back in time when people had their imaginary friends in form of God/Gods they had to do stuff like marriage, but now its just kind of stupid.
I do understand that back then they was afraid to be left alone with the kid and so on. But now one can get a peace of paper saying - "yeah, this is your baby - pay up",no need for another paper saying - "you belong to me and only me". As if that means anything.
I get it if one wants to change surname, that is if the one person have is horrible beyond comprehensions, but even then there is simpler solution.
And what idiot gets so desperate at age of 25 when life just begins, well beside ones with imaginary friends, can not hold these responsible need to blame their upbringing or idiocy to believe that believing in god should be regulated by some kind of old fashioned code of morality.
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So, in the modern age, while marriage may not be a necessity anymore, I don't see anything wrong with the institution itself; it doesn't hurt anything. At least in the U.S., I'm more concerned at how selfish people seem to be getting, how unwilling people are to make sacrifices for each other, especially in relationships.
There are a variety of reasons to get married; love doesn't necessarily have to enter the picture, it's just a common reason to do so, in part because of the frequent association between getting married & starting a family.
Sacrificing something for relationships or more not doing that is quite common in Europian morality based society.
I blame it on the fact that man did not actually ever sacrifice much to their home life and now women have stopped ruining their life's because of the man or kids, so there is nothing holding them together. It's all this modern morality where people are thought to be by themselves and so on, to go away from their families as soon as possible, not to trust anyone and so on.
love and marriage actually had nothing to do with each other in the beginning of it. Love entered in marriage just recently. Not recently, but as such it is quite new phenomena. Marriage was purely financial or political thing. I guess now that it have less to do with financial stuff people just think that the property they gain by doing this is the other person...and we all know that's silly. One can not get a proper slave in modern European society. We all wish for it, but can not really get one because of all the idiotic rules that protect the week and deformed.