Are You Alone?

[harpy]

Damn thats outrageous he needs to get himself a job if he wants money

sometimes it's better not to be in a relationship than to have one which will constantly hurt you.. Well... i'm single only for just 2 months so maybe i'm a lil bit Irritated yet.. but being single and independet is way better))

If you're in a relationship that constantly hurts you why the hell are you still in it? That's not a relationship, that's either being an idiot or a masochist. Any relationship that's hurting you (excluding special situations) is pointless and better off ended.

Yep! that's why i sent my ex to hell. Well i was an idiot cuz i was madly in love with him... but hell i wanna be free

I have a friend that sings a similar song to the one you are singing right now. She gets in a relationship, gets hurt, stay single for few months (usually do not last more then 3-6 months) and gets back in to relationship 

[Nodame-chan]

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It occasionally seems like a good idea.

But you've been out of it for two months? I'm sorry, but man the fuck up.

I've only been dumped once, and I was sad for like two days, then I wasn't.

Well it depends on a person. My ex calls me like everyday.. but still.. stupid guy who took away all my independence, wanted to take the money i earned with my a difficulty and forbidded me to watch anime and say anithing related about japan.. shit.. i hate myself for going on with this asshole for 2 years...

I have a friend that sings a similar song to the one you are singing right now. She gets in a relationship, gets hurt, stay single for few months (usually do not last more then 3-6 months) and gets back in to relationship 

To be honest this was my first relationship.. so i don't think it's that similar.

[metro.]

It occasionally seems like a good idea.

But you've been out of it for two months? I'm sorry, but man the fuck up.

I've only been dumped once, and I was sad for like two days, then I wasn't.

Well it depends on a person. My ex calls me like everyday.. but still.. stupid guy who took away all my independence, wanted to take the money i earned with my a difficulty and forbidded me to watch anime and say anithing related about japan.. shit.. i hate myself for going on with this asshole for 2 years...

Trolololol people that believe in true love.

Sorry, I'm an asshole, but really, wake up.

[Raylightsa3]

It occasionally seems like a good idea.

But you've been out of it for two months? I'm sorry, but man the fuck up.

I've only been dumped once, and I was sad for like two days, then I wasn't.

Well it depends on a person. My ex calls me like everyday.. but still.. stupid guy who took away all my independence, wanted to take the money i earned with my a difficulty and forbidded me to watch anime and say anithing related about japan.. shit.. i hate myself for going on with this asshole for 2 years...

Iv had allot of control freaks in my time but thats just ridicules

[Nodame-chan]

It occasionally seems like a good idea.

But you've been out of it for two months? I'm sorry, but man the fuck up.

I've only been dumped once, and I was sad for like two days, then I wasn't.

Well it depends on a person. My ex calls me like everyday.. but still.. stupid guy who took away all my independence, wanted to take the money i earned with my a difficulty and forbidded me to watch anime and say anithing related about japan.. shit.. i hate myself for going on with this asshole for 2 years...

Trolololol people that believe in true love.

Sorry, I'm an asshole, but really, wake up.

Ah.. I don't believe in love any more.. i just need a guy who'll be like 10 years older than i am. That's it. A man with whom i'll feel safe, and whom i'll enjoy kind of

[metro.]

...You just went from somewhat weird to wtf level.

[Nodame-chan]

...You just went from somewhat weird to wtf level.

You can call me crazy if you want or maybe insane.. but i'm really nervous at this point of my life and i dont understand what i realy want and need.. and i speak a lot of trash. that's cuz the boy whom i loved more than my life just spoiled everything and continues to do the same shit..

[harpy]

I have a friend that sings a similar song to the one you are singing right now. She gets in a relationship, gets hurt, stay single for few months (usually do not last more then 3-6 months) and gets back in to relationship 

To be honest this was my first relationship.. so i don't think it's that similar.

Then it most likely is the same song, just different verse.
I mean, you are young (I suppose..not that I am old, not at all, maybe a bit older) you should go through all the messy relationships you can put your hands on and not dwell on the first one. First one 99,99% times go bad, but it does give one of the best memories once you can look past all the mess and pain

[Nodame-chan]

Then it most likely is the same song, just different verse.
I mean, you are young (I suppose..not that I am old, not at all, maybe a bit older) you should go through all the messy relationships you can put your hands on and not dwell on the first one. First one 99,99% times go bad, but it does give one of the best memories once you can look past all the mess and pain

Ah, memories... that's the worst thing.. i just burst into tears when i remember anything... and the pain is so deep i think i'll never feel a real love from the depths of my heart again.... oh holy crap.. tears again T__T

[Soryon]

[Nodame-chan]

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As I said before you are the BEST

[elvikun]

I knew this thread will eventually turn into something interesting.

But the most interesting part was about no relationship = no sex. Someone actually still thinks that, in this day and age? It's just that unless you are really ugly or really old, you can prolly have sex almost anytime you want. And I don't mean the paid one. Not saying it's the best thing ever either. Just saying.

But yeah, "I really have to get married soon, to try that sex thing i'm hearing about" is the winning ideolgy of the decade.

[harpy]

Then it most likely is the same song, just different verse.
I mean, you are young (I suppose..not that I am old, not at all, maybe a bit older) you should go through all the messy relationships you can put your hands on and not dwell on the first one. First one 99,99% times go bad, but it does give one of the best memories once you can look past all the mess and pain

Ah, memories... that's the worst thing.. i just burst into tears when i remember anything... and the pain is so deep i think i'll never feel a real love from the depths of my heart again.... oh holy crap.. tears again T__T

That's why I said - when one can look at past without feeling it, but understanding it as a experience
Oh and you will feel true love, we all do, its just the way we are built Let this buzz of chemistry fully wash out and get ready for the next one.

[Nodame-chan]

That's why I said - when one can look at past without feeling it, but understanding it as a experience
Oh and you will feel true love, we all do, its just the way we are built Let this buzz of chemistry fully wash out and get ready for the next one.

Thanks for good words ))

[Goldfrapp]

If you dont belive in love, you just got to stay single, because being with someone and NOT love them.. what would be the point in that? That would be waste of time and nothing but a big lie.

And even if you are in a good relationship, after the first blooming, its all just a matter of hard work to keep together. Nothing works of itself, it needs maintance, upgrading and change. Give and take. And both needs to do that work, or it will slowly die out, and you end up living with your best friend, or your worst enemy..

[harpy]

ha ha, even if one do not believe in love one can feel love. I do believe that relationships and love is huge waste of time, but I do feel it....well I did, now I just know how to avoid falling in love unless it is chemistry, one can not do anything about chemistry.

Beside most of the time as soon as working on relationships start - love have ended and its addiction or some other kind of crap people put up with, instead of facing the fact that social norm to be with someone can be ignored.

I do not understand whats wrong with being single.
Alone is quite strange way to put it, one can be alone in a room or lonely and lonely have nothing to do with being single. As I see it, most people who feel lonely (not all) just can not live with themselves, they are scared to be alone, well sometimes it's just giving in to social norm that turns into need for most people - to be together.
Not that there is anything wrong with not wanting to be single. Its the annoying part of non-single people that bug the hell out of single ones by pressuring them into hell.

[elvikun]

Being single is not being alone or lonely, to rephrase it a bit. Just as being with someone doesn't mean you can't feel lonely.

I'm single a long time, mostly because I can't tolerate many people in my "sanctuary" (and for the makers sake, I mean my home ba that) and not many people can tolerate my habits (and frankly, I will not change) and the need to dominate and control eveything in vicinity. I have a cat. that's very much enough love for me. Am I happy? Yep. Am I alone? No.

Sure, some traditionaly edcated people will frag you as strange, because being single is not a choice, everyone, after all, has to LOVE someone and as such, those  who are single are just too awkward to have relationship, ah. Really, what a bull.

Also, if you want longterm relationship, don't live together. It will last longer.

[Nikkoru]

I have two cats, I have to restrain myself from becoming a crazy cat person. That, or more likely, a Disney Princess-like collector of adorable fauna in general.

They're terrible company, they go away the minute they're fed, are far too warm to sleep next to, and I suspect they're plotting to suffocate and eat me, but I can't help but look at a cat and not go D'awww and want to glomp them like Elmira Duff.

Having to consider anything but just your own needs and immediate wants does make you feel considerably less like an island apart.

[Saras]

If you dont belive in love, you just got to stay single, because being with someone and NOT love them.. what would be the point in that? That would be waste of time and nothing but a big lie.

Most interesting. The only thing I've ever been taught about relationships was to not base them on love.

[SilverDash]

Wow 5 pages already on this topic. Let me add some more.

Ah.. I don't believe in love any more.. i just need a guy who'll be like 10 years older than i am. That's it. A man with whom i'll feel safe, and whom i'll enjoy kind of

Let me "open my pink book of sex *cough* I mean 'love'"
- be physically strong. It also automatically makes you more confident. Doing martial arts also helps.
- Girls are like taking a military test. Tell her what she wants to hear. Don't tell her the truth about how she looks, smells, etc. unless it's really positive of course. Especially when talking about her weight or you can kiss her good bye without actually kissing her. Girls are really sensitive about their looks.
- be secure, know no shame.
- be funny, at least a little (it's not that hard really).
- have some hobbies but not too much or they feel dumb because they can't catch up in conversations or you will end up summing em all up and getting lost in your hobbies. Happened to me a few times -.-
- DON'T talk about exes, previous relationships, blabla.
- Indeed being older than the girl you want seems to be a big plus for girls.
- Being taller than the girl you want is also a big plus. Nothing much you can do about it really.
- Having money and a big car seems to work too. Well at least don't say you're unemployed or working at the supermarket. It will make you look like a loser that they will have to carry. If it's the case don't lie but make a joke or so and try to change the subject to something she likes to talk about.
- Don't try to imitate tricks from movies. They suck and don't work irl.
- Don't EVER go to a girl being 'overly horny' or you will fail really bad.
- Don't waste your time on 'first liners'. They don't work and they make you more nervous. Plus they probably heard em all already at the age of ~ 20 and above. Unless they are really ugly of course lol.
- Listen to the girl. Don't do all the talking. This way there is also less chance for you to screw up . Also remember what she tells you and perhaps repeat a little of what she said before to confirm that you really were listening.
- Always smile. Not like a clown but always look happy/content.
- If possible be the center of attention at parties, crowds, school, whatever. Who cares if the teacher doesn't like you. The  girls will like you. Even tough you make stupid remarks during a class it's better than being the invisible guy.
- Try, try and keep trying. Just hit on as many girls as you can. Preferably on girls not from your area in case you really mess up haha. This way you get better and you might get lucky. Then when you have enough experience you go to the girl you want and you make her yours. Some guy once said to me "women don't fall in love. You have to make em fall in love (with you). Still can't get her? Then she ain't worth it . Go look for another one.


Almost everything from the above is out of my personal experience. It might or might not work for you or in your area. But it did for me. Tough most of em are just basic rules.