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harpy:
ha ha, even if one do not believe in love one can feel love. I do believe that relationships and love is huge waste of time, but I do feel it....well I did, now I just know how to avoid falling in love unless it is chemistry, one can not do anything about chemistry.

Beside most of the time as soon as working on relationships start - love have ended and its addiction or some other kind of crap people put up with, instead of facing the fact that social norm to be with someone can be ignored.

I do not understand whats wrong with being single.
Alone is quite strange way to put it, one can be alone in a room or lonely and lonely have nothing to do with being single. As I see it, most people who feel lonely (not all) just can not live with themselves, they are scared to be alone, well sometimes it's just giving in to social norm that turns into need for most people - to be together.
Not that there is anything wrong with not wanting to be single. Its the annoying part of non-single people that bug the hell out of single ones by pressuring them into hell.

elvikun:
Being single is not being alone or lonely, to rephrase it a bit. Just as being with someone doesn't mean you can't feel lonely.

I'm single a long time, mostly because I can't tolerate many people in my "sanctuary" (and for the makers sake, I mean my home ba that) and not many people can tolerate my habits (and frankly, I will not change) and the need to dominate and control eveything in vicinity. I have a cat. that's very much enough love for me. Am I happy? Yep. Am I alone? No.

Sure, some traditionaly edcated people will frag you as strange, because being single is not a choice, everyone, after all, has to LOVE someone and as such, those  who are single are just too awkward to have relationship, ah. Really, what a bull.

Also, if you want longterm relationship, don't live together. It will last longer.

Nikkoru:
I have two cats, I have to restrain myself from becoming a crazy cat person. That, or more likely, a Disney Princess-like collector of adorable fauna in general.

They're terrible company, they go away the minute they're fed, are far too warm to sleep next to, and I suspect they're plotting to suffocate and eat me, but I can't help but look at a cat and not go D'awww and want to glomp them like Elmira Duff.

Having to consider anything but just your own needs and immediate wants does make you feel considerably less like an island apart.

Saras:

--- Quote from: Goldfrapp on February 26, 2012, 06:55:47 PM ---If you dont belive in love, you just got to stay single, because being with someone and NOT love them.. what would be the point in that? That would be waste of time and nothing but a big lie.

--- End quote ---

Most interesting. The only thing I've ever been taught about relationships was to not base them on love.

SilverDash:
Wow 5 pages already on this topic. Let me add some more.


--- Quote from: metro. on February 26, 2012, 05:44:04 PM ---Ah.. I don't believe in love any more.. i just need a guy who'll be like 10 years older than i am. That's it. A man with whom i'll feel safe, and whom i'll enjoy :D kind of :D

--- End quote ---

Let me "open my pink book of sex *cough* I mean 'love'"
- be physically strong. It also automatically makes you more confident. Doing martial arts also helps.
- Girls are like taking a military test. Tell her what she wants to hear. Don't tell her the truth about how she looks, smells, etc. unless it's really positive of course. Especially when talking about her weight or you can kiss her good bye without actually kissing her. Girls are really sensitive about their looks.
- be secure, know no shame.
- be funny, at least a little (it's not that hard really).
- have some hobbies but not too much or they feel dumb because they can't catch up in conversations or you will end up summing em all up and getting lost in your hobbies. Happened to me a few times -.-
- DON'T talk about exes, previous relationships, blabla.
- Indeed being older than the girl you want seems to be a big plus for girls.
- Being taller than the girl you want is also a big plus. Nothing much you can do about it really.
- Having money and a big car seems to work too. Well at least don't say you're unemployed or working at the supermarket. It will make you look like a loser that they will have to carry. If it's the case don't lie but make a joke or so and try to change the subject to something she likes to talk about.
- Don't try to imitate tricks from movies. They suck and don't work irl.
- Don't EVER go to a girl being 'overly horny' or you will fail really bad.
- Don't waste your time on 'first liners'. They don't work and they make you more nervous. Plus they probably heard em all already at the age of ~ 20 and above. Unless they are really ugly of course lol.
- Listen to the girl. Don't do all the talking. This way there is also less chance for you to screw up :P. Also remember what she tells you and perhaps repeat a little of what she said before to confirm that you really were listening.
- Always smile. Not like a clown but always look happy/content.
- If possible be the center of attention at parties, crowds, school, whatever. Who cares if the teacher doesn't like you. The  girls will like you. Even tough you make stupid remarks during a class it's better than being the invisible guy.
- Try, try and keep trying. Just hit on as many girls as you can. Preferably on girls not from your area in case you really mess up haha. This way you get better and you might get lucky. Then when you have enough experience you go to the girl you want and you make her yours. Some guy once said to me "women don't fall in love. You have to make em fall in love (with you). Still can't get her? Then she ain't worth it ;). Go look for another one.


Almost everything from the above is out of my personal experience. It might or might not work for you or in your area. But it did for me. Tough most of em are just basic rules.

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