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metro.:
So last night around 1 AM I started having a conversation with a friend as I came to realization that I look at girls in a different light knowing that they have/haven't had sex. Me, being a teenage male with hormones raging, look at a girl, and after knowing she's had sex, automatically consider what she would look/feel/sound like. Piggish, I know, but it's not a conscious choice.

I have asked some people I know, varying in virgin status and gender, and gotten mixed results, one thing that has come clear through is that most guys (should be noted I'm talking around late teens-early twenties) share my sentiment for the most part. Girls on the other hand, don't always, and especially not if they're virgins, they don't see girls or guys in a different way. It should be noted I'm not talking about judging morality here, just if you start seeing them as a sexual entity.

So if you would please let me know your thoughts, this would be great, I really am curious. If you want to, it'd be great if you go put your age/gender/virgin status, but I understand if you don't want to. Much obliged.

(click to show/hide)So I was up until like 5AM talking about this with several people about this, and I've come to this conclusion. I think that for guys, because we are the ones actually...being inside them, we have this feeling dominance, mainly because we are emotional children. For me, this isn't just the actual physical feeling but it's linked with sounds, facial expressions, etc, and thus each person is significantly different, and due to a curious nature I always wonder.

Like I sad, quite lewd, judge away. These are just my thoughts on the matter, put forth in a terribly roundabout and confusing manner.

EmptyMemory:
I look at girls in a different light based on virginity.
I don't consider what she would look/feel/sound like.

I'm somewhat chaste in general. I've never been comfortable with the notion of getting close to a girl purely for sexual motives. Don't be mistaken though, this uncomfortably has nothing to do with what I deem moral or not. I'm, for some reason, more inclined to meet a girl for the purposes of making a friend. If sex comes with that, then I'd be down, but it's still second to the friendship.

I'm 19. I'm a male. I'm a virgin.

(click to show/hide)I'm pretty confident that my viewpoint will be stay consistent even after losing my v-card, but you can never be 100% sure about these things.

Nikkoru:
You're asking whether we view people who've had sex differently from those who haven't? Well, generally there remains the historical discourse where men are encouraged to prove their virility in a rite of passage while women have been all but locked into high towers until marriage day. Women's lib has changed that, but slut and stud still have seriously different contexts, and the double standard is more notable with more traditional societies.

Personally, it's never been an issue for me.  Apparently awkward teenage sexuality passed me by - I think it has something to do with having numerous lasting friendships with girls and women since grade school. It ruins the mystique.

metro.:
No, I'm not asking about the people you've had sex with, that's a given.

I'm asking, do you view people who HAVE had sex differently, particularly of the opposite gender.
And I from your last part, I think that I'm being misunderstood here, which is on me. My description makes no sense I know.


--- Quote from: EmptyMemory on April 10, 2012, 03:21:49 AM ---I look at girls in a different light based on virginity.
I don't consider what she would look/feel/sound like.
I'm 19. I'm a male. I'm a virgin.

(click to show/hide)I'm pretty confident that my viewpoint will be stay consistent even after losing my v-card, but you can never be 100% sure about these things.
--- End quote ---

Yeah, it'll probably change, simply biologically I mean. The virginity thing is interesting, I haven't talked to any guys about this that are virgins.

I'm beginning to think that perhaps that's the thing that sets apart people, not gender.
And yes, imagining what it would look/feel/sound like is like talking about the plot of a book you've never read, you can hear about it all you want but until you've read it, you really don't know it.

Ixarku:

--- Quote from: metro. on April 10, 2012, 02:58:48 AM ---Me, being a teenage male with hormones raging,

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That right there is the key.  What you're describing is one of those perceptions that I expect will change as you age, unless you remain sexually supercharged.  Eventually, too, you're going to find yourself in a work environment surrounded by older people all of whom are or have been sexually active, and you'll probably start seeing them in a different light.

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