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EmptyMemory:
--- Quote from: harpy on April 10, 2012, 06:49:06 PM ---Mmmmmmmm, let me think.
If I get to know that someone is virgin after reaching age of 20 I do thing differently of them (if they are no religious), make a small smile and ask - why?
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Cringe.
If I meet a girl, become friends with her, and get to know her, I will make judgments based on what I see. Suppose that after knowing her fairly well, I'm suddenly informed that she is/is not a virgin. I don't think my view of her would change that much.
Obviously, if the first thing I'm told about her is her v-status, I'm probably going to make some sort of judgement based off that, but that's only because, at that point, I won't have had much to work with.
buchno:
Sex, sex, sex... It is what a huge part of our constructs complies to, and plays a big role in society.
Yet, I find it being vastly overrated. None of the (relatively few) times I've done it have been that amazing magical experience it is told to be. Frankly, I was disappointed when I "lost" my virginity. It may be because I've never really had someone who is experienced or knows what to do, though, but I don't know about that yet...
So, I don't really care if people are virgins or not. There is so much more in life.
And, you already know my "status"...
Saras:
For males, it is a sort of right of passage. It doesn't matter if you do it, but it kind of does if you didn't.
As for the viewpoint on women. I've heard sexiness described as something that's based purely on your assumptions about someone, not knowledge. So, if you have a mindset that actively tells you that people who have had sex are more interesting in bed, I could very well see you perceiving them as sexier. I've also heard this used to explain "sexiness" versus "attractiveness", a long time partner can very well be attractive, but she cannot be sexy, because you already know most of what she's capable of.
Male / roughly 22 / Reading the topic, I suppose I'm a bit of a late bloomer. Still I suppose I'm fairly chaste by comparison as I've only had a few partners.
Oh, Elvis-kun.
I've absolutely no memory of either my first kiss or of my first time holding hands. I still have memories of my first crush thought.
elvikun:
--- Quote from: rostheferret on April 10, 2012, 07:31:58 PM --- (click to show/hide)
--- Quote from: elvikun on April 10, 2012, 06:36:54 PM --- What I meant is that when you asked people about your age or younger about virginity, there is a good chance they said "Sure, I have sex, like, all the time, you know." but it's not truth, just trying to look "cool"(And frankly, that goes tripple for males). How do you tell who is telling the truth?
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There's an old joke; you ask a man how many women he's slept with, divide by three to find the real answer. Ask a woman how many men she's slept with, double it to find the real answer. :P
The most interesting point I've seen raised is whether you view someone differently after sex (rather than specifically virginity). Avoiding the obvious 'well now I don't have to imagine what she looks like topless hurr hurr' type jokes (ok, I had to make one >.<) I usually don't think of them in a new light at all. I'll have decided already what I wanted from the situation, whether we were in a blossoming relationship or we were both drunk in a bar. I don't really become any more emotionally entangled; I don't really know them any better as a person do I? It's just a fun activity. The same, however, is most certainly not true for women. I don't know why, but the difference before and after is that afterwards even the most benign of comments, ordinarily ignored, become deep painful insults causing them to burst into tears leaving the guy scratching his head. The phase usually passes but the amount of time I've reduced partners to tears without a clue why is mind boggling.
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And yes, the jokes like... He is amazing. Best 7 seconds in my life!
are very old. Hurr hurr.
1. Think good and long about who your best friend is.
2. Somehow manage to sleep with them.
3. Invite them to beer/whatever.
4. Come back and say nothing is different whatsoever.
Yeah. You wouldn't prolly get to do point 4 honestly. And that's what at least I've meant.
And plese, please, everytime you plan on saying something very terribly awkward about women, at least have the courtesy of putting "some of" or similar before it. Do it just for me, so I don't have to go on the "it's about principe" counter-argument crusade about the fact that not every woman is submissive and totally stupid. ;D
And to the topic, I still think it's all very irrelevant. You can't tell by looking. Say what you will, but you can't.
And being over 20 and virgin doesn't really mean much either, I know a few people who are virgins, way over 20 and they simply don't care, and yet they are very intelligent, interesting and attractive people. Not fitting what you say makes virgin obvious in any way.
It really matter only if you have the need to keep on bragging about it all the time.
--- Quote from: Saras on April 10, 2012, 07:46:10 PM ---Oh, Elvis-kun.
I've absolutely no memory of either my first kiss or of my first time holding hands. I still have memories of my first crush thought.
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Oh, I forgot to mention, you first have to do it.
...Ok, on serious note, I don't know about about the forgetability (erm) of those, what I meant is that it is somewhat emotional and thrilling, because it's something very new and at the time, perhaps important.
Oh come on, don't tell me I'm the only one thrilled about new things.
PS: Evil is ok, but not Elvis please.
AceHigh:
--- Quote from: Saras on April 10, 2012, 07:46:10 PM ---For males, it is a sort of right of passage. It doesn't matter if you do it, but it kind of does if you didn't.
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Ha! That's funny, because if you think about the whole point of sex, then it means that you are a failure if you didn't impregnate a woman even if you had sex like a thousand times ;D
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