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elvikun:
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--- Quote from: Saras on April 10, 2012, 07:46:10 PM ---For males, it is a sort of right of passage. It doesn't matter if you do it, but it kind of does if you didn't.
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Ha! That's funny, because if you think about the whole point of sex, then it means that you are a failure if you didn't impregnate a woman even if you had sex like a thousand times ;D
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Kind of returns me to the "We're not in 14th century anymore". Tho this is more like Stone age. :D
TiYlER:
Male.
Age 16 going on 17.
Virgin.
I do not see girls any differently simply because I assume everyone I know has had sex.
AceHigh:
Stone age must have been easy for males. Pretty sure a date went like:
"Ugh ugh, I see female"
*knocks her out with a club*
*drags her into a cave*
*has 5 minutes sex with an unconscious woman"
*Rolls over and sleeps*
Good old times :D
Saras:
--- Quote from: elvikun on April 10, 2012, 07:51:07 PM ---Oh, I forgot to mention, you first have to do it.
...Ok, on serious note, I don't know about about the forgetability (erm) of those, what I meant is that it is somewhat emotional and thrilling, because it's something very new and at the time, perhaps important.
Oh come on, don't tell me I'm the only one thrilled about new things.
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Is it? Don't most prepubescents kind of get it over with the local equivalents of games of dare? While not my first kiss, I kind of remember getting my first French kiss like that in middle school. These are hardly emotional occasions, generally just bunches of brats doing stupid things.
rostheferret:
--- Quote from: elvikun on April 10, 2012, 07:51:07 PM ---
--- Quote from: rostheferret on April 10, 2012, 07:31:58 PM --- (click to show/hide)
--- Quote from: elvikun on April 10, 2012, 06:36:54 PM --- What I meant is that when you asked people about your age or younger about virginity, there is a good chance they said "Sure, I have sex, like, all the time, you know." but it's not truth, just trying to look "cool"(And frankly, that goes tripple for males). How do you tell who is telling the truth?
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There's an old joke; you ask a man how many women he's slept with, divide by three to find the real answer. Ask a woman how many men she's slept with, double it to find the real answer. :P
The most interesting point I've seen raised is whether you view someone differently after sex (rather than specifically virginity). Avoiding the obvious 'well now I don't have to imagine what she looks like topless hurr hurr' type jokes (ok, I had to make one >.<) I usually don't think of them in a new light at all. I'll have decided already what I wanted from the situation, whether we were in a blossoming relationship or we were both drunk in a bar. I don't really become any more emotionally entangled; I don't really know them any better as a person do I? It's just a fun activity. The same, however, is most certainly not true for women. I don't know why, but the difference before and after is that afterwards even the most benign of comments, ordinarily ignored, become deep painful insults causing them to burst into tears leaving the guy scratching his head. The phase usually passes but the amount of time I've reduced partners to tears without a clue why is mind boggling.
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And yes, the jokes like... He is amazing. Best 7 seconds in my life!
are very old. Hurr hurr.
1. Think good and long about who your best friend is.
2. Somehow manage to sleep with them.
3. Invite them to beer/whatever.
4. Come back and say nothing is different whatsoever.
Yeah. You wouldn't prolly get to do point 4 honestly. And that's what at least I've meant.
And plese, please, everytime you plan on saying something very terribly awkward about women, at least have the courtesy of putting "some of" or similar before it. Do it just for me, so I don't have to go on the "it's about principe" counter-argument crusade about the fact that not every woman is submissive and totally stupid. ;D
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The second bit wasn't directed at you btw, just a generalisation I've noticed often seems to be true. And yes, if we're talking about someone whose a close friend then sex is incredibly weird, and yes ofc things will suddenly be all the more awkward. Especially seeing as my two closest friends are both male. It has nothing to do with stupidity or the like, it's not even a negative connotation; women tend to form stronger emotional attachments from sex than men. I on the other hand, form far stronger emotional connections to someone from events in a completely de-sexualised manner. This could just be me.
EDIT: Actually, now that I think of it, my best friend when I was about 16 was female, and yes I did sleep with her. My feelings towards her didn't change, but I knew hers had, which in turn made things more difficult and we lost contact a few months later. I still didn't view her in a romantic manner, she was a good friend who happened to be attractive, throw alcohol into the mix and one thing led to another, yada yada. Maybe I'm emotionally stunted, who knows, but this goes back to my original point, women tend to feel a stronger emotional connection from sex than men do (in my experience).
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