The thread title does this topic no justice imo but I digress. At least it was philosophical and ambiguous enough to draw my attention.
I'm a little tipsy so that's my excuse but here goes.
Men can stumble into things. No preparation needed.
Women can also stumble into things but...... what happens afterwards is what separates Mars from Venus. Or so I would like to believe...
As with most things human, exceptions are the rule rather than the norm. Ying and Yang. Because in the deepest part of Ying, you will find the opposite. Vice versa.
Sex is 90% in your head. At one level, it's the basest of human instinct. On another level, it's also the epitome of our imagination and romanticism.
Our views on sex will change with time and experience, so it's hard to answer your question OP. But I tend to agree with the generalisation that sex is a more emotional event for women than it is for men. And you may be right. It may have something to do with our biology and physiology. That thought has crossed my mind and it's me being very clinical. That is not to say I'm not emotional. Trust me, I am.
So when I first discovered sex, did I see girls differently based on whether they were virgins? To be honest, that question only came up when assessing my chances to get laid. In fact, it was in my head before I even lost my virginity. Yes, I was a pretty horny kid with a wild imagination.
Do I still see things that way? Whether women are virgins or not no longer matters. But if the sexual tension and attraction is there, chances are I would fantasie about her at some point.
I'm not sure if this was the discussion you were after but for what it's worth, that's how it is for me.
