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Dating "Deal Braker"
Goldfrapp:
--- Quote from: AceHigh on May 05, 2012, 03:28:03 AM ---So what are you getting at? That since women have the hardest time in the process of creating offspring, the males shouldn't get paternal leave so they can assist in order to ease the burden? Ok, got it, apparently females want to deal with it alone as long as they have the monopoly on paternal leave.
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Anyways, I don't have any troubles giving my bf daddyleave so he can spend time with the kids, I'm all for sharing.
But I would have loved if we could have shared the first couple of months so he could have done practical stuff like cooking/cleaning/shopping and so on, while I was sitting, sleepdeprived on my sore butt with my sore tits out, feeding the hungry baby. I can promise you, fulltime work was not what I longed after, for a very long time:P
AceHigh:
--- Quote from: Nikkoru on May 05, 2012, 02:10:35 PM ---Except that's more of a cultural product than natural tendency. What's physically attractive to us changes too much to be something latent. Usually it correlates to some degree to what people perceive as healthy, but for the most part it's all an illusion.
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I would add that it is also in our instincts to perceive things we are used to as safe and unknown with suspicion. Probably a factor in our preferences when we grow up in society that is composed of people with similar physical characteristics. Heh, even if I know that, I still can't help having preferences like that. Also, I wouldn't limit it to the tradition definition of "race" either, I don't really like the physical appearance of gingers, so I guess it's more about ethnic groups. Asians would be a wildcard, some of them are pretty, others are an uncanny valley for me.
Saras:
The only black women I've ever found attractive were more likely than not of Ethiopian ancestry. Anyway, still what's considered attractive changes with time, there is no question there. However, that does not mean that we don't have preferences or that we shouldn't.
Nikkoru:
--- Quote from: AceHigh on May 05, 2012, 03:01:29 PM ---
--- Quote from: Nikkoru on May 05, 2012, 02:10:35 PM ---Except that's more of a cultural product than natural tendency. What's physically attractive to us changes too much to be something latent. Usually it correlates to some degree to what people perceive as healthy, but for the most part it's all an illusion.
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I would add that it is also in our instincts to perceive things we are used to as safe and unknown with suspicion
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This is true, although to a large part that's related to cultural preferences as well -- how integrated a society is and how they're represented. After all, most ethnic groups have no particular phenotypal difference from their neighbours.
Chances are you're going to find someone within your economic class, culture, and likely within your sub-culture as well. This usually corresponds to something along racial lines, that's reality historically speaking -- and part of the reason interracial relationships have been on the rise is that those economic and cultural lines are becoming far less apparent. As much as they say love is irrational, it's actually fairly predictable.
Speaking as someone who's a visible minority raised in an environment not totally dissimilar to the one in The Magic School Bus, sans Magic, I've got little in the way of preference in that respect. I do however, find myself disconcertingly attracted to free spirited teachers.
JoonasTo:
Here's a the counterpart for males.
Top three for women:
Uzbek
Italian
Ethiopian
Worst three for women:
African American
Japanese
Samoan
Top three for men:
Hungary
France
West Africa
Worst three for men:
African American
Japanese
Samoan
This could be worth it's own thread already though
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