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metro.:
Yeah, I've been thinking too much, so I figured I'd put something into writing.

I don't know if it's just me, but in my young life, I have made quite a few mistakes. I fully admit to them...eventually, and attempt to learn from them. However, of late I've noticed a trend of seeing mistakes coming from a mile off, thinking to myself This is going to be a mistake, but I think it might be worth it and doing it anyways. Of late, I've had mixed results, but before this year it typically went well.

Regardless of my personal outcome, I'm curious of a few things.

* Do you repeat mistakes often? If so, is there a reason behind it, or do you just not realize it happening?
* What do you judge a situation by?
The second question is worded so poorly, I know it's going to cause some issues so allow me to explain to be best of my abilities, which really isn't that great at all.
When you are/were in a situation, what factors do you look at, and add up in some way to come out with a good or bad outcome? I suppose what I'm trying, and failing, to get at, is what makes you call something a "mistake", ranging from minor inconvenience to colossal failure?

God damn, I really need to get better at this.

AceHigh:

--- Quote from: metro. on May 07, 2012, 04:41:42 AM ---
* What do you judge a situation by?
--- End quote ---

How do you judge a situation?
What method do you use to judge a situation?
Which factors influence your judgement of a situation?


Feel free to use any of those if you deem them worded better.

As for me I use the mix of logic and intuition (subconscious deduction based on past experiences in life). My perception on things will cause a different outcome in a situation from another person even if we both use the same logic pattern. I believe that applies to most people.

logos:
"fuck it, why not?" is pretty much my motto, so yes I repeat mistakes, whether I realize them or not rarely matters. 
And I generally judge situational things intuitively, but if I plan a choice I do so logically....then say "fuck it, why not?" and proceed to do something I probably shouldn't...
although I do reflect a lot on the larger mistakes I've made in life and I haven't yet repeated any of them.

rostheferret:
Pretty much what Ace said for judging situations; past experience to relate to the situation at hand and intuition coupled with a large dose of logic. I know some people are more emotive and passionate than others, I'm fairly placid and coldly logical towards most situations. If someones upset I don't react with empathy so much as draw a logical conclusion as to how best to comfort them, which now I've mentioned it translates a little loosely to "I'm faking it to make you feel better." It also makes me make huge mistakes when outbursts seem illogical to me; I remember I once made my ex cry and had no idea what I said. All I know is that yelling "why the fuck are you crying" in the middle of the supermarket was not the smartest thing to do.

To that end, every situation I've been in collates as statistical data of reactions to my certain actions, and how best to deal with situations as they arise. As I garner more life experience I'm better capable of dealing with such situations. As for mistakes, that implies you regret actions taken in the past. I don't regret anything I've done, because I feel confident that given the same level of experience I would have acted in the exact same way. Sure, I've learnt how to better deal with situations, but now we're talking from a retrospective viewpoint. It's like asking if a fresh newly qualified electrician knows the trade as well as a 25 year old veteran; of course the kid freakin' doesn't. I suppose it boils down to how you define a "mistake." I could have dealt with situations better, sure, but it's easy to say that posthumously. I'm not going to beat myself up over an inability to deal with foreign situations and/or predict the future. The only real tragedy is if you fail to learn and better yourself as a result.

JoonasTo:
I judge situations by the effort involved compared to the result gained. So it's a simple +/- equation. Don't really recall having done that many mistakes.

If you think this is going to be a mistake but it's going to be worth it, it isn't a mistake. You're only judging it for yourself and if you think it was worth it it was a success.

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