Author Topic: The General Chit Chat Thread (Read 1540400 times)

AkumaisDaGr8est · « **Reply #2660 on:** December 06, 2007, 01:32:02 AM »

Quote from: psychiclord on December 06, 2007, 01:27:34 AM

Ask him to honestly tell you about all the problems he has at school, then try to work out solutions to them.

That, or sign him up for karate.

first, no child ever tells their parents the WHOLE TRUTH. never ever, ever, ever expect that so option one is flawed.

second.....i think it would just make matters worse, its not that he can't defend himself (if you get your ass beat i doubt you'd look for a rematch so soon) and she wants to know whats pissing him off and making others piss him off.

then again it could help vent anger and all that other shit....but it could backfire and just supremely kick the shit out of the other school children

psyren · « **Reply #2661 on:** December 06, 2007, 01:48:19 AM »

You obviously miss the whole point of learning a martial art. It's not just about the skill, it's also learning when to use it (a.k.a. self control

).

AkumaisDaGr8est · « **Reply #2662 on:** December 06, 2007, 01:50:20 AM »

Quote from: psychiclord on December 06, 2007, 01:48:19 AM

You obviously miss the whole point of learning a martial art. It's not just about the skill, it's also learning when to use it (a.k.a. self control ).

OR he could use it to just to prove he isn't such a shrimp because of his small size.

Rhapsody · « **Reply #2663 on:** December 06, 2007, 01:54:53 AM »

I almost singed him up for judo for after school activities but when he said he would use it to kick others asses i changed my mind, so in this Akuma is right!

AkumaisDaGr8est · « **Reply #2664 on:** December 06, 2007, 01:58:46 AM »

does he like any sports...cuz if he did you could sign up for local kiddie sports (i call it kiddie, but really youth sports...sounds more dignified)

just wanna know....if a kid gets into a fight off school grounds, does he still get the same punishment?

Rhapsody · « **Reply #2665 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:11:21 AM »

Off school grounds i guess it's the cops who gets involved! I really don't know. I never got into trouble much when i was a kid.

AkumaisDaGr8est · « **Reply #2666 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:12:40 AM »

Quote from: Rhapsody on December 06, 2007, 02:11:21 AM

Off school grounds i guess it's the cops who gets involved! I really don't know. I never got into trouble much when i was a kid.

awww...such a good girl...yea well when i was a youngin we did our shit away from school and then all scattered like bugs when we heard sirens

not that i'm giving any suggestions or anything...just throwin it out there

psyren · « **Reply #2667 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:24:20 AM »

Quote from: Rhapsody on December 06, 2007, 01:54:53 AM

I almost singed him up for judo for after school activities but when he said he would use it to kick others asses i changed my mind, so in this Akuma is right!

Uhhh... I don't think he quite got the meaning of 'judo' (the gentle way). Judo can only be applied if someone else attacks first.

Rhapsody · « **Reply #2668 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:25:00 AM »

The day cops bring my son to me i'll tell them to book him for a night or 2

Hell i did not even know Judo meant that. I my self got all the way to my brown belt in Jui Jitsu and let me tell you my teacher was a hard ass and i respected him!

AkumaisDaGr8est · « **Reply #2669 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:27:32 AM »

Quote from: Rhapsody on December 06, 2007, 02:25:00 AM

The day cops bring my son to me i'll tell them to book him for a night or 2

maybe, he could do training school...that shit will straighten you up real quick....the guards in there are messed up beyond belief...its like prison for real......but you gotta commit a crime first

psyren · « **Reply #2670 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:28:58 AM »

Well, if your son is as nice at home as you say he is, then I'm pretty sure he's not terribly keen on hurting you like this. Hence why I said ask him what's wrong. Just tell him you're worried about him and need to know what's going on to be able to help him.

AkumaisDaGr8est · « **Reply #2671 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:31:26 AM »

Quote from: psychiclord on December 06, 2007, 02:28:58 AM

Well, if your son is as nice at home as you say he is, then I'm pretty sure he's not terribly keen on hurting you like this. Hence why I said ask him what's wrong. Just tell him you're worried about him and need to know what's going on to be able to help him.

every child has two personalities....es pecially when it comes to parents....you may not want to hurt your parents, bvut at the same time you have obligations (if he had any) to yourself...so it really isnt a sure fire way....but i guess it wouldn't hurt

Rhapsody · « **Reply #2672 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:33:15 AM »

He's been telling for the past couple of hours how sorry he his for hurting me and that he loves me and writing me notes but i've been a mean bitch and ignoring him completely and crumbling is sweet note and throwing them out of my room. I know he's sorry but he does nothing to fix the problem

BakaBT · « **Reply #2673 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:35:54 AM »

Originally posted by Malus:

keep him away from me ... I will corrupt him.

Rhapsody · « **Reply #2674 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:40:21 AM »

Awww sweetheart i am sure you would not

AkumaisDaGr8est · « **Reply #2675 on:** December 06, 2007, 02:47:20 AM »

Quote from: Nah on December 06, 2007, 02:35:54 AM

keep him away from me ... I will corrupt him.

ROFL.....better him than i

psyren · « **Reply #2676 on:** December 06, 2007, 03:03:09 AM »

Sit him down and talk seriously. No matter how childish or two-faced (not in a mean way) they are, they will get the message that you mean business.

If you don't take them seriously, they won't take you seriously either.

Xanthic · « **Reply #2677 on:** December 06, 2007, 03:06:49 AM »

2 words Rhaps. Military School.

I'm not normally one to advocate such a thing, but in this case it would at least teach him to stop picking fights (I'm sure the other kids there aren't the ones you'd be wanting to pick fights with) and it would at least get him out of your hair for awhile.

AcidMonkey · « **Reply #2678 on:** December 06, 2007, 03:57:58 AM »

Quote from: psychiclord on December 06, 2007, 03:03:09 AM

Sit him down and talk seriously. No matter how childish or two-faced (not in a mean way) they are, they will get the message that you mean business.

If you don't take them seriously, they won't take you seriously either.

+1

Although, I wasn't a "bad child" either, so I can't really say out of personal experience.

Peccato · « **Reply #2679 on:** December 06, 2007, 04:13:53 AM »

They also have those short wilderness bootcamp things. One of my good friends in highschool got caught with some pot so his grandma shipped him off to one. I think it was like six weeks long or something like that. He came back totally different. He definately started doing what he was supposed to, and just seemed more confident and driven. He was a bit chubby before he went and when he came back he lost a lot of weight and got really ripped.

Either way it has to be hard for you no matter what desicion you make. I was a really bad kid and put my mom through a lot. It's a lot different being on the other side of the fence. Even though mine aren't very old, just recently I packed up every single toy in my 4 year old's room and took them out because she didn't want to clean her room. I hated having to do it, but if I loose control now there is no hope in the future. She was devasted when I took away her neko gear. I am making her earn it all back too.

I am all for corporal punishment as well. I don't know how old your son is or how you feel about it, but it can be a real humbling experience for a kid. I remember my mom telling me once that you want your kids to repect you not fear you. I would have to say I disagree with that. Once they loose respect you better hope they fear you, sometimes it's the only way.

Either way, I hope you figure something out soon and things turn around for you. Just don't give up. Even if you have to take a bit of time to regroup, you'll figure something out. You are beautiful intelligent woman after all.