The General Chit Chat Thread

[Peccato]

Don't complain eh?

I am the ONLY one in my house that cleans anything.  Granted, my kids do pick up their toys.  Even though they do, their rooms come to the point where I have to intervene and clean them.  My husband doesn't lift a fucking finger, he doesn't even put away his clothes that I washed.  I do laundry for four people, and that includes towels and bed linens.  I have to cook, and then wash all the dishes.  I have to clean the bathrooms, and every other room in the house.  It sucks a whole lotta ass.  I have lived in my house for 2 1/2 years and my husband can't put the dishes away because he doesn't know where they go.  My freaking chore list is a mile long. I do more cleaning now then I ever did as a child.

I wish I only had to clean the bathrooms and do the dishes.

[AkumaisDaGr8est]

well cleaning can be done inbetween times....it doesn't have to be done ALL at once

my brothers were both cleaning at 7 yrs old.....i started at 8 yrs old. basically its the ultimatum clean or don't expect me to buy a damn thing for you EVER again.....that line works wonders.

yea cooking sux ass...thats why mom taught me young so that i didn't have to bother her ass so i could eat....i expect you do the same.

well, basically you could just say no clean = no food

but then again....my mom is one of the last people who will take shit from any one....even from scary, abuse, non loving, constantly hating  afriacn fathers

[Peccato]

Don't forget my kids are only 2 and 4.  If they could cook that would be a miracle.  When they are old enough of course I am going to make them do a good portion of the chores, but right now it's all on me.  I have to say, my husband does work 60-80 hours a week so I don't require much out of him.  Although it would be nice if he picked up after himself a little.

[AkumaisDaGr8est]

damn....stay at home peccato...left to tend for babies and clean the house

and do school?

[Peccato]

Exactly.  I always have something to do.  It was actually nice to get a break and go observe surgery yesterday.  Granted I had to get up at 4:30 am and stood on my feet until 5 pm, it was still a great escape from the mundane.

I love being a mom and being married.  But it almost seems as though I have lost myself in it.  Like that is all I am.  I honestly have 2 friends.  One of which is my sister-in-law who lives 90 miles away.  The other one I only see once or twice a month because she works all the time.  It's hard to make friends these days.  Most people my age are going to the club or bar 5 nights a week.  It sucks.  I figured in school I would meet more people like me, but I have been there for 2 semesters and haven't really met anyone.

[daley]

Exactly.  I always have something to do.  It was actually nice to get a break and go observe surgery yesterday.  Granted I had to get up at 4:30 am and stood on my feet until 5 pm, it was still a great escape from the mundane.

I love being a mom and being married.  But it almost seems as though I have lost myself in it.  Like that is all I am.  I honestly have 2 friends.  One of which is my sister-in-law who lives 90 miles away.  The other one I only see once or twice a month because she works all the time.  It's hard to make friends these days.  Most people my age are going to the club or bar 5 nights a week.  It sucks.  I figured in school I would meet more people like me, but I have been there for 2 semesters and haven't really met anyone.

I dont think its anything to worry about at all, those 2 close friends are probably closer to you than the friends people your own age have. I bet they are sincere and real friends rather than the hordes of aquaintences you meet out clubbing when youre younger. I wouldnt be comparing such things. Your kids are young, you wont have a life until they are older, so when youre in you and your hubby are in your prime you will be living the life, having fun and enjoying everything out there. Everyone else will be picking up diapers and moping up baby puke etc.

Alot of my friends had kids around 17/18. Im the odd one out now, i dont have kids, nor do i plan to anytime soon (since it is so important and i want to be have a stable environment, partnership and general outlook on life before even attempting the horrendeous child task), our lives are so different now. I finished uni and the school part of my life and they are mums. It spins me out sometimes.

Pec, it will all turn out great. You will meet some wonderful people, get a little uni friendship circle going and will have a great time. Things happen when you least expect it!

[Peccato]

Yeah, I know.  It's just a bit frustrating.  I am only 20 after all.  I am only just now starting to go out and leave the kids at home.  I am one of those overprotective parents who don't let their kids out of their sight.  The first time I ever left my first kid with anyone, she was 2.

Sometimes it feels like I don't have a life outside my family, but sometimes that's really the only place I feel like me.

[AkumaisDaGr8est]

Yeah, I know.  It's just a bit frustrating.  I am only 20 after all.  I am only just now starting to go out and leave the kids at home.  I am one of those overprotective parents who don't let their kids out of their sight.  The first time I ever left my first kid with anyone, she was 2.

Sometimes it feels like I don't have a life outside my family, but sometimes that's really the only place I feel like me.

you had a child when you were 16!!!!!??

[daley]

Yeah, I know.  It's just a bit frustrating.  I am only 20 after all.  I am only just now starting to go out and leave the kids at home.  I am one of those overprotective parents who don't let their kids out of their sight.  The first time I ever left my first kid with anyone, she was 2.

Sometimes it feels like I don't have a life outside my family, but sometimes that's really the only place I feel like me.

you had a child when you were 16!!!!!??

So what if she did? i dont think it really matters.

Pec you will get a life outside of your kids.... i completely believe that you will and it will be a brilliant one

[AkumaisDaGr8est]

Yeah, I know.  It's just a bit frustrating.  I am only 20 after all.  I am only just now starting to go out and leave the kids at home.  I am one of those overprotective parents who don't let their kids out of their sight.  The first time I ever left my first kid with anyone, she was 2.

Sometimes it feels like I don't have a life outside my family, but sometimes that's really the only place I feel like me.

you had a child when you were 16!!!!!??

So what if she did? i dont think it really matters.

Pec you will get a life outside of your kids.... i completely believe that you will and it will be a brilliant one

it doesn't matter...it's just that i find it outstanding...as well a lil bit odd

[daley]

Yeah, I know.  It's just a bit frustrating.  I am only 20 after all.  I am only just now starting to go out and leave the kids at home.  I am one of those overprotective parents who don't let their kids out of their sight.  The first time I ever left my first kid with anyone, she was 2.

Sometimes it feels like I don't have a life outside my family, but sometimes that's really the only place I feel like me.

you had a child when you were 16!!!!!??

So what if she did? i dont think it really matters.

Pec you will get a life outside of your kids.... i completely believe that you will and it will be a brilliant one

it doesn't matter...it's just that i find it outstanding...as well a lil bit odd

one of my friends had one at 13. It seemed so weird at the time, i couldnt even have babies at that age cos i was a late bloomer but....strangely enough. Shes still with the boy, they have 3 kids and are married and seem disgustingly happy.

[AkumaisDaGr8est]

i didn't say it wasn't impossibe....but just because there are situations like your example doesn't mean that it isn't weird

i mean i could NEVER understand how children (13-18 is a wee just beyond child) could define love at such a young age

[daley]

i didn't say it wasn't impossibe....but just because there are situations like your example doesn't mean that it isn't weird

i mean i could NEVER understand how children (13-18 is a wee just beyond child) could define love at such a young age

i dont understand that either, i dont think at 23 ive every loved that much

[Transparent]

im bored.  yea, got it in the right thread this time

[Peccato]

I Actually had my first child at 15.  I got married to my husband at 16.  Then had my second child at 17.  I think I have done pretty well for myself.  I even bought my first house at 18.  I have a great relationship with my husband who cares a lot for me.  We have been together for 6 years now.  I couldn't see myself with anyone else.

Granted, the majority of relationships and such started at such a young age tend not to do so well.  But there are always exceptions.  I would say that mine is definitely one of them.

[psyren]

I'm still alive... I think. Am supposed to go to Genting Highlands today (theme park on top of a mountain), but I don't really know if I want to, since I'll have to put up with 2 retarded monkeys the whole day.

EDIT: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=40n60W8ILw4&feature=related
I nearly wet myself laughing watching this vid

[AkumaisDaGr8est]

I Actually had my first child at 15.  I got married to my husband at 16.  Then had my second child at 17.  I think I have done pretty well for myself.  I even bought my first house at 18.  I have a great relationship with my husband who cares a lot for me.  We have been together for 6 years now.  I couldn't see myself with anyone else.

Granted, the majority of relationships and such started at such a young age tend not to do so well.  But there are always exceptions.  I would say that mine is definitely one of them.

you DECIDED to have a child at 15.....like were talkin 15...the age when you enter high school.

and then ANOTHER one at 17. You must be a miracle worker.

[Peccato]

I didn't decide to have a child at 15, I decided to keep her.  I just made some poor decisions that led to it.  Although now I am greatful that I did.

I chose to have the second one when I did.  It seemed to be the most logical time to do so.  I was in a stable environment and was clearly able to support it.  I knew I wanted to have 2, and I didn't want them to be too far apart in age.  I also wanted to go ahead and get it over with since I planned on returning to school and wanted to do it in a timely fashion.  I also knew how much it cost to have a baby and figured if I did it before I turned 18 I wouldn't have to pay.  The hospital bill alone for my first was over $50,000.  Why not have the state pay for the second one too?  We pay our taxes.  That is the only gov't assistance I have ever received, and I think it was a pretty smart choice on my part.

I am glad that by the time I am 35 both of my children will be adults.  I'll still be plenty young to have some fun and will hopefully be fully successful in my career by then.

[daley]

I didn't decide to have a child at 15, I decided to keep her.  I just made some poor decisions that led to it.  Although now I am greatful that I did.

I chose to have the second one when I did.  It seemed to be the most logical time to do so.  I was in a stable environment and was clearly able to support it.  I knew I wanted to have 2, and I didn't want them to be too far apart in age.  I also wanted to go ahead and get it over with since I planned on returning to school and wanted to do it in a timely fashion.  I also knew how much it cost to have a baby and figured if I did it before I turned 18 I wouldn't have to pay.  The hospital bill alone for my first was over $50,000.  Why not have the state pay for the second one too?  We pay our taxes.  That is the only gov't assistance I have ever received, and I think it was a pretty smart choice on my part.

I am glad that by the time I am 35 both of my children will be adults.  I'll still be plenty young to have some fun and will hopefully be fully successful in my career by then.

Smart woman but hard hard path. Atleast thats what i think, its always harder having kids younger.

What were your folks like when you had the baby? pretty supportive?

[Peccato]

My mom was very supportive.  She helped me make my appointments and stuff.  But my husband supported me.  He paid for any out of pocket expenses and even bought groceries to have at my mom's house.  Mind you he was only 17 when I got pregnant.  It's a lot harder for my friends who have kids and are single.  I consider myself very lucky.  I haven't ever had to get a job, so I have got to spend all my time with my kids.  Even older women with children don't very often get that luxury.

My mom let me make all my own decisions which was nice.  That and she totally adores my husband.  She knew he would do the right thing and be responsible.  He helps her out even now when she needs money or something.

Sometimes I bitch and stuff, but I really do know how great I have it.  Everyone needs to vent every now and again. ^.^